Wednesday, July 17, 2024

Freshman Orientation!

 I am a mom who has taken her COLLEGE FRESHMAN to his ORIENTATION. YOU GUYS. Harry is leaving for college in LESS THAN FIFTY DAYS. How is this real life?

One thing I have noticed about college today versus college in the olden days is that kids are encouraged to declare a major before they even start classes. I think this is because college is so freaking expensive, and parents are really concerned about time to graduation. But! I personally think college is about growing up and figuring yourself out MORE THAN it is about a program of study, so I … don’t really care about a major?

Anywho, after his last round of AP test results, Harry decided to lean into what he loves and already has a semester’s worth of credits for and declared political science with an economics minor. He is thinking about adding a communication certificate. After he stopped at the undergraduate research booth on Saturday and a really nice Spanish professor asked him what he was studying, and all he could say was poli sci, he thought more about a sound bite encapsulation in the car on the way home. He wants to study how voter perceptions of US economic policy are both communicated and understood according to socioeconomic status. OK, THEN. PROCEED.

We learned a bunch of stuff about the campus, walked up the infamous hill to the dorms (NO JOKE YOU GUYS OMG WHO MAKES A COLLEGE CAMPUS ON A CLIFF???), got Harry’s books for the semester. (The university says textbook rental is included in tuition, but I still had to buy a book that’s not a rental for $150 grumble grumble). We also bought more Eau Claire stuff because of course. And! We listened to a whole morning of programming about joining in and belonging (separately) and then declined the group lunch and went out by ourselves. Erm.

I did take the provost’s advice to lean out and stop getting up in my kid’s life business and just be a supportive encouraging person who can direct my kid to resources when Harry showed me his schedule that includes 4 days of a super early class and also a huge break 3 days a week before his last class of the day. DANGER DANGER. But, you know what? Not my problem. He is going to have to figure out how to get down that freaking MOUNTAIN by 8 am and also climb the eff back up if he wants to eat in the cafeteria and then climb down and back for his last class of the day. I suggested that if he wants a later start or a shorter break, he should email the advisor who helped him sign up and left it at that. I think maybe more important than the algebra or economics stuff he is learning is the lesson in how to be a grown up who juggles things and learns about the kind of schedules he needs/likes/thrives on, you know?

Also when we got back from our lunch to do a lap of the resource fair, it smelled like vomit all around the ballroom, so we were glad to be not joiners.

His classes are all in the two buildings in the background, so at least once he climbs down the mountain, he has an easy time of it.

THAT’S US!! WE ARE A BLUGOLD FAMILY!!!
No one was around (because everything smelled like puke?) so Harry let me take his picture here finally!
And then! The guy with the guy in the mascot suit asked if we wanted a BLUGOLD picture, and I was SO DELIGHTED because I asked him like 5 times to take a pic with the bird, and Harry was SO EMBARRASSED. Maybe the highlight of the day.
Stairs up THE HILL. Gorgeous. But so steep.
SO BEAUTIFUL
There were SEVERAL flights like this.
At the top!! (Where we immediately climbed ANOTHER flight of stairs-- concrete this time and not old saggy wood!)
Midway down.
We also drove around and found the closest urgent care and Walgreens (he is going to have to be in charge of his own prescription refills!!). I talked to a rep from the health center to find out what Harry needs to do when he has chest pains, and I am calling our insurance this week to figure out providers and he’s meeting with his cardiologist to ask all of the questions. THIS IS HAPPENING, you guys. 

All that is left besides buying most of the things and hauling them up the stairs in his not-air-conditioned dorm and driving 175 miles AWAY FROM OUR KID is nagging the heck out of him until he gets a job on campus. Just 8-10 hours a week! Checking in library books or lifeguarding the campus pool or swiping IDs at the rec center— SOMETHING.

We cut out early (not joiners) and made it home for Jack’s last home dive meet of the season. The golf course restaurant was closed for takeout, and we almost cried. But then we rallied.

Grilled cheese and a vodka lemonade— WHAT COULD BE BETTER


Jack was fabulous and almost beat is own high score again






I am missing a dive and might have the same one twice, but I am on the YouTube struggle bus.

Speaking of total inanity. Teaching days 13 and 14/27!!

Old old old Anthro dress that is too tight and too short but I wore anyway:
Not to be outdone by an Old Navy babydoll dress older than my house:




(I have NO FOREHEAD WRINKLES AT ALL thanks to Augustinus Bader's The Rich Cream -- it is a MIRACLE FROM HEAVEN).


25 comments:

  1. You know I immediately clicked on that rich cream link and whoooooaaa nelly, it's spendy. But if it works...well, I'm not saying no...
    Shit is getting real!!! College orientation, so exciting. I leaned wayyyyy out when it came to my son at university. I barely know what he's taking, and he has created his own schedule, etc etc and it's good. I actually don't even know when he moves back out again, I should probably check that. Anyway, excited for you guys, it's such an exciting time. Also I have my master's in economics so I like his choice of minor!

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    1. LOL that Nicole and I both went straight for the face cream. PRIORITIES.

      Also I didn't say below, but I love his plans for specialization in his field! The children are our future etc.!

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    2. Leaning out is obvi the way to go-- can I quash my helicopter tendencies? (ground my helicopter tendencies?) That remains to be seen

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    3. What a special day for you and Harry! I feel you'll do a great job with leaning out because you have very busy younger kids and also (as a prof yourself) you know firsthand how ridic it can be when parents are overly involved in the minutiae of their college kid's life. And Harry seems to have such a strong sense of where he's headed.

      You look absolutely radiant in the pics, Sarah... it made me check out that cream you linked... it's hella rich (heh).

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  2. I clicked on that rich cream link SO FAST. But omg, I don't know if I can justify spending the $$$ when it might exacerbate my rosacea and result in me not using it.... Arggghhh. The pull to look as ageless as you is strong, though!!!

    Okay, that is not the point of your post, which is: YOUR BABY IS GOING TO COLLEGE!!!!! How exciting/terrifying! I am also giving the yikes-face to his schedule, but maybe he will be super at getting out the door early??? All those stairs! Wow. Everyone on campus must have amazing calves.

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    1. I am using it BECAUSE of my rosacea-- it does not freak my skin out. I went to Blue Mercury and got a large sample first to make sure and then bought the 15mL size to double make sure. But then! I set up an auto-replenish order on the website, which is 20% off...

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  3. All those stairs/hills are why they call it higher education.

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  4. Seriously, is every university on a hill? My undergrad literally has the name Mount in the name. I feel like it's a "thing" for campuses. We currently live in a very hilly university town and I hate the hills SO MUCH. But then, I am not as young as I once was...haha.

    Sounds like a great day and good move to skip the group activities that resulted in vomit. Ugh. Hard pass!

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    1. There is a giant hill on our campus (okay, FINE, it's not that giant - we live in a prairie) and to get to most places on campus, you either have to go around the hill or up the hill and there are days when I just want to cry about it. If I had to regularly climb those stairs to get to an eight o'clock class, though, I would not be alright!

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    2. I WOULD NOT GO TO THAT CLASS. **yikes**

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  5. Anonymous10:59 AM

    Hi, Sarah! I've been reading for a while but first-time commenter. I went to UWEC in the early 2000s and a lot of people who had that weird early combo of one early class and then a late one opted to stay on the lower campus all day and just get all their work done rather than trudging back up The Hill. People definitely strategized and planned their days around minimizing their trips up and down that thing (and the only thing worse was having a class across the bridge in winter). The only days I didn't stay down there was when the climb was offset by desperate need of a midday nap, haha. Also we were able to ride the city bus for free and one stopped right outside Hibbard/Brewer so on really bad weather or exhausted days, that's always an option. I will say the climb never FELT like it got easier but it obviously did -- I realized that the first time my family visited a few months in and I looked back and saw I was chugging away fifty feet ahead of them while they all clung to the railing and gasped for air, haha. I'm really enjoying reading these college posts and excited for your kiddo, UWEC is such a stunningly gorgeous campus as you know! ~Jenny

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    1. this is so helpful-- thank you!

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  6. Anonymous1:27 PM

    This is Lisa. Dang that is a lot of stairs. I am trying to imagine navigating them when it’s snowy and icy! But the kids will figure it out.

    I remember going to college orientation. I drove myself there. My parents were like - enjoy! I was an honors student so I got to register early and spent a night in the dorms which I thought was fun and exciting. It has been interesting to observe the college application process for my nephews and for my bougie coworkers who fly all around the country visiting schools. My parents told me I could go wherever I wanted but that I was paying for it. My tiny K1-12 school had a total joke for a guidance counselor so I was on my own. I went to a state school where I got a nice academic scholarship so I all worked out. My parents had no idea what classes I was taking or when those classes were. I didn’t register for any 8am classes, though, at the advice of my older sibs. My nephew started at the U of MN last fall and he took chemistry, physics, calc I and a computer science class. I was like - who in the hell told you to do that! But it was what the advisor he met with told him to do. He did great, though, but I was like could you not include a psych class or something to round things out a bit. Harry sounds so bright. It is hard to imagine knowing what college to apply to when applying to schools though. I understand the pressure to figure it out fast given the cost but yikes. Most kids don’t know what the want to do at age 18!! And they might get stuck down a path and feel the switching costs are too high to change degrees…

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    1. in fact SIXTY PERCENT of college students change their major at least once! my parents also did not attend orientation (was there even a parent part??) and had no clue about my academic life, and I think that's the right way to do it, but parenting culture has changed SO MUCH that I don't even think it's an option to live this way. My institution has a 2-day orientation, and students work on schedules the first day, have time to run it by their parents, and then officially register the second day.

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  7. WELL, Harry will be in good physical shape from climbing up and down all day! No "Freshman 15" for these students! I'm having flashbacks from leaving my own son at school his freshman year (three years ago) and the waterworks that ensued. It's a hard transition-for the parents- but also an amazing new phase. I'm excited for you guys!

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    1. I definitely feel like it hasn't hit me yet!

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  8. awww this is so so exciting! Did not know about The Hill but he will get lots of leg workouts :) Hope to get lots of dispatches on how it is going for him - hopefully tons of leaning AND also fun!

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    1. He's going to have GIANT THIGHS-- which I only note because when he was getting a prom tux, the dude fitting him said, like, "well it looks like you will be a standard size. Some guys have to special order because of their thighs" and I was struck by that being so weird, but maybe it's not!!

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  9. I am so, so excited to have Harry on campus! Take comfort in knowing EC has a great Mayo Clinic urgent care! I'm looking forward to watching him figure out how adulting really works - lol. He's going to do just fine!

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    1. The whole point of college, IMO, to figure out adulting!!

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  10. That dress does not look too tight or too short. I love both dresses. I have some old dresses, but I don't think any of them predate my house. I agree, it is hard to figure out what you want to be when you grow up when you have just finished high school. I did not figure it out right away, but chose poorly anyway after I got bad advise from an adult. Should've been a teacher but I woman I babysat for, who I really looked up to/spent most of my waking hours with, told me I'd never meet a husband. I chose marketing.

    I remember college orientation with Lad. It felt so weird.

    This is the first I've heard of a college being built on a cliff. That's nuts. Does that college not have anyone put on the freshmen 15? ;)

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  11. This is so fun, but also brought back flashbacks to my own freshman year at college, which was AWFUL. Haha. I do hope Harry has a much better experience than I did!

    That hill is something else - whew.

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  12. *gives thanks that college was in a city and on a grid street system*
    Seriously, though. I need to get my rear up to Eau Claire. It looks gorgeous!

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