I am always trying to think of Future Me as I go about my day. What would she appreciate? What could I accidentally do that's really going to make her mad? How can I set her up to live her best life?
I know that because I get up early to exercise and then stay up later than I would like to because that’s when teens and tweens want to hang out, my energy is going to decline precipitously as the day goes on. I try to front load my day as much as possible while still saving a few fun things to do like little Easter eggs for the late afternoon/early evening hours. I worry about tired and cranky Future Me. Like, I want her to have a nice evening, but I am also going to curse her name if I wake up to a full dish wahser and bedtime snack detritus all over the counter, you know?
Today, I have my top 5 hacks to give Future Me a high five:
1. Stick a little bag of snack in Minnie’s backpack for the after school (7 minute LOL) commute. I also stick snacks in Coop’s dive bag and the middle row door pocket for Dorothy (YES, we are back to eating in the car, sigh). No matter how well I prepare for our big kid pickup and hellish slog through rush hour and back, it’s always hard to get Minnie out the door, so a little prep goes a very long way. Things like bags packed and in the laundry room by the door, water bottles filled and waiting in car cup holders, plugs in every charging outlet to anticipate low phone batteries, correct shoes in Dorothy’s dance bag— these are all the tasks I do when I am filling up Minnie’s snack.
2. Plan for preschooler down time. It is VERY EASY for Minnie to get sucked into the TV. Things start out innocently enough with just one episode and then spiral from there. She’s quiet I can get stuff done. And then before I know it, she is a screened out zombie, and the rest of my day is bullshit because her attention span is GONE, and she’s mad about it. The other day she painted the planets that we traced together on Big Paper (I love Big Paper so much I refer to it by proper name and think it might need it’s own bullet. Big Paper plus paint. Big Paper on the table. Big Paper and markers— such a super hero she is. Yes, Big Paper is a girl **shrug**)
3. Make a bunch of food on the weekend and eat it until Future Me worries about food poisoning. I have baked mac and cheese on repeat because Jack will eat it after work, and Dorothy will put it in her lunch. I have also been making a rando pasta casserole every week that Ben, Jack, and I eat until… Wednesdays? I’ve been changing out the pasta shape, veggies, and sauce (sometimes I even make it with garden tomatoes), and we are not bored yet.
4. Do three things around the house. Laundry, dishes, wiping bathrooms, making beds, cleaning the kitchen forty million times a day— these are things that happen in the course of a normal day. But! To really stay on top of house things, I like to do 3 additional tasks every day on an informal rotation. You know, things like vacuum the bedrooms, dust all the blinds with a swiffer, water the plants, straighten the bookshelves, change all the sheets (I did this all on the same day this week— all 6 beds— and it was a bad idea), dust the living room or family room (or heck— MAYBE BOTH!), wipe down the sliding doors/storm door, clean mirrors, wipe wall smudges with a magic eraser— kind of quick things that make a big difference in the general tidiness of the house. I add these tasks to my daily to-do list, and sometimes they get bumped to the next day. Usually, though, I can cross them off in 15 minutes (total for all 3) or less. This minimal daily effort helps Weekend Me a TON when I am cleaning. I also listen to a podcast or an audiobook while I do these things, and the strategy of pairing really helps me out. PLUS when Minnie goes to bed, I like to be able to mostly put the house to bed, too, so I am just hanging out with the big kids but not working anymore.
Sarah, I am still flummoxed as to how you fit all of this stuff into a normal day? I feel like you've found some way to crack the space/time continuum.
ReplyDeleteAlso...I'm confused by "minimal daily effort" - YIKES! What you're doing sounds like a LOT of effort. Sheesh. I want just a fraction of your energy and/or organizing genius.
You are a machine. A living, breathing, cute-as-fuck, vibrant MACHINE.
ReplyDeleteI have been gradually attacking problem areas on the main floor this fall, and at this point it only takes me a few minutes to get it back to clean and serene, and I love past me for that.
I usually make dinner, and my husband usually cleans up - maybe not all the night before, but he cannot bring himself to leave the house in the morning until the kitchen is spotless. Sometimes when he's away I don't get stuff done the night before, and it's sad to wake up to a less-than-sparkling kitchen. Sometimes I DO clean it, and then I forget for a moment that it's Past Me I'm grateful to and not him.
I also want your energy! I'm so dang tired all the time and I'm younger than you and have less kids! You are like a whirling dervish over there! The planet project is amazing. You are so brave to have paint in your house. I think if Minnie had Taco's personality you wouldn't dare bring paint into your house... he has terrible terrible impulse control. If he did paint, it would be more of a jackson pollock kind of look rather than trying to mimic a drawing of the planets. Lol.
ReplyDeleteYes, I agree with previous commenters- you have way more energy than I do! The last thing I want to do on any given day is change the sheets (and I'm talking about one or two beds- not six!) But, you are definitely setting your future self up for success. I hope you do a DITL post during NaBloPoMo so we can see exactly when all these amazing things happen.
ReplyDeleteI cleaned out my email inbox entirely in January of 2023 and I loved it. But I haven't had it EMPTY since. I do clear out all unread emails every day, though, so there's never anything there that needs dealing with. I love the way you frame this, taking care of future you. There are so many ways to apply this to our lives. Cleaning, money, exercise, work stuff, etc. It's a good way to think about things.
ReplyDeleteYup... How DO you do it?! I pride myself on doing many of the things you do, but I have fewer kids and zero toddlers! I had to do the guest bedroom twice this weekend and felt like a victim lol
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ReplyDeleteI am in awe of what your current self does for your future self. My future self expects very little from past self, because I set the bar very low. Housework is the first thing to go when I'm getting things done. If I stay on top of laundry and the groceries, I think I'm winning. I only have two tots today. Maybe I'll wash my kitchen floor (something I do on my hands and knees and therefore don't do it enough). I guess my high five would be the organizing of clothes into bins and well labeled/stored in the storage room in the basement for easy future access.
The huge roll of paper is so awesome. What a great idea. My kids would've lost their minds with excitement if I'd rolled out that kind of paper.
You are a machine, Sarah. And also amazing. And I'm jealous of your energy. Send some over hea please
ReplyDeleteI'm single, no kids, work from home, and I can BARELY keep up with my regular weekly chores. You are an inspiration!
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